Setting goals is hard, especially when it comes to fitness. Unless you are a competitive athlete trying to make weight, break a record or win in your sport, it can feel like making something materialize from thin air.
One of my clients is working through this right now. She knows she wants to feel and see changes in her self. But what exactly does she want to see and feel? A certain number when she stands on a scale? The feel of a bit more room in her jeans? The sense of strength of picking up a weight she never thought she could?
Thinking it might help, I sent her the Spitfire goal worksheet. After working with it a bit, she wrote a post on her blog about it. From reading her blog post, I realized that I have left something off the worksheet or just left it vague. What makes us want to have or do something?
In striving for an Olympic gold medal, an athlete may seek to push the boundaries of human potential, love from family, fame and fortune maybe even enlightenment. Fear can also move us though it is about moving away from something than towards something. I am sure there are Olympic athletes that train and compete to avoid shame, guilt and pain.
I believe Love is the ultimate motivator. Without getting too woo woo, I’ll just say that we humans accomplish tremendous things for the Love of a person or Love of the Divine. You might run a little faster when you know the person you have a crush on is watching. You might work extra hard to drop two clothing sizes for your wedding. You might choose to practice yoga everyday for a month to deepen your connection with the Divine.
So whose Love is your goal for? What do you want to do or have for them? Do you want more strength to protect your kids? Do you want to lose weight for your honey or potential honey? Do you want to learn to change your nutrition for the health of your family? Do you want to run a 5k to feel a sense of accomplishment and self-Love?
Exploring why you want to do or have something makes creating tangible goals out of nothing much easier. When I was a kid, I worked on my jump shot in basketball every afternoon, because I wanted to be a Harlem Globetrotter and loved by fans. I practiced my camel turn on roller skates, because I wanted a handsome prince to see me perform in an ice-skating show and fall madly in love with me (I blame Disney for that one.). I concentrated on trying to levitate objects with my mind to gain Jedi powers and experience the flow of the Force in, through and around me. I was crystal clear what I wanted, why and for whom.
Let Love lead you to your goal.